Instead, focus on topics that are easy to discuss and help you learn about each other.
Since hitting the bars is out, start by "dating" for friends, Baumgartner suggests.
Look for people who like to do the same things as you do. They offer a casual group setting and regularly scheduled meet-ups, and allow you to do something while you're getting to know the other person.
No matter what the age of the child, avoid a detailed account of why you broke up.
Your kids deserve an explanation, but shouldn't be your confidants."This is big nay for me when children are in the house," Zane says.
Baumgartner recommends relating it to friendships your child may have had.
Talk about how we meet people we like and as we get to know each other better we get to decide if we still want to be friends, she says.
"In my coaching practice, I suggest that single moms do the inside work to get really clear about their wants, needs, values and beliefs and get in touch with their intuition," says Kerri Zane, single-mom lifestyle expert and author of It Takes All 5: A Single Mom's Guide to Finding the Real One.
Once you've decided that you're ready to date, it might feel impossible to find the time.
"How would you feel if your kids came into your bedroom in the middle of the night with this person sleeping over?
If you can comfortably answer your child's questions and tend to their needs with that person lying in bed next to you, then maybe you're on the way to some slumber parties." If not, you can find other creative ways to make time for intimacy.
Don't have shared custody or family or friends in the area? You're older now, hopefully wiser, and have kids to consider.